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The Father Daughter Relationship

My father posted an amazing story today on 20 Things a Father Should Tell His Daughter. This was a great list for every father to keep in mind while raising young girls; although my dad never said this verbatim he had the gist of it. Personally, I believe that my father has played a huge role in the woman I am today. He taught me how to be strong, independent, and that I could do anything I put my mind to (including driving stick shift and building Ikea furniture.)  From an early age, my mind was set on being a therapist (I know an abnormal dream profession for a young child). Through my studies, I have learned the importance of attachment in the development of our children. "Attachment" is the bond that infants form with their caregivers and this leads to not only how we develop mentally, personally and emotionally, but affects our personality and development of future relationships.  According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 24 million children in America live in biological father absent homes. That is one in three children! Not that children raised without fathers do not turn out fine. However, this shows the importance of having male attachment in young daughters and sons lives. There is a need for role models to get attention, affection, and guidance from a male figure whether that be through a mentor-ship program, a coach, a teacher, or another male member of the extended family. My father is that figure in my two teenage cousins lives. 

 For more information on statistics of the "father factor" visit the National Fatherhood Initiative  

 Hope you enjoyed the read!

 Future Therapist 

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